5 Differences between raising girls and boys
Or are they just different children?
Our first born is a girl. We found that out on our 20 week anomaly scan. We eagerly asked after we had been told that the scan was reassuring and no abnormalities were apparent. We smiled with joy and excitement. Not because she was a girl, but I think more to do with the fact that she had a new element to her identity now.
Second baby, we decided not to find out the sex. We wanted a different experience, simply because we could I guess. He turned out to be a he. Again we smiled from ear to ear, because he was here and he was safe.
Everyone says boys are SO different to girls. We’ll see I thought. To begin with I couldn’t really see what people meant. He’s now 9 months and she is 4 years old. The difference between them is certainly becoming clear!
#1 Breastfeeding. I think this may have something to do with first vs second baby, my confidence and experience. I really struggled breastfeeding our daughter. I went through the agony of bleeding nipples and mastitis. I got all wound up with this conveyor belt of breastfeeding, expressing and bottle feeding. I cried, lots.
Our son however breastfed a dream. My attitude or girl vs boy?
#2 Sleep. Our daughter at 3 1/2 months slept through the night! YES! Of course there were times she didn’t, like if she was poorly. I was that smug mother at groups who couldn’t complain about lack of sleep. Not any more.
Our son at 9 months still wakes 2 or 3 times through the night! Doesn’t have any milk or water, dummy goes back in and he goes back to sleep. We think it’s his teeth but who knows? Which brings me on to…
#3 Teething. Our daughter would get bright red cheeks and dribble lots but never seemed overly distressed.
Our son, really seems to struggle with teething. Pulls his ears, chews his fingers, screams. Possibly cause of him waking through night? Poor little monkey.
#4 Exploring. Our daughter would love exploring her toys and her surroundings. However we never needed door locks.
Our son, well his favourite activities are opening cupboards and pulling out the contents (before we put on door locks), rooting in the bin, trying to put hands down toilet and trying to get to the log burner! He is exhausting.
#5 Independence. Our daughter although she loved cuddles as a toddler and still does, she was happy to play by herself for short periods of time whilst I washed up/filled washing machine/emptied dishwasher etc.
Our son, cries when I leave the room. He is my little shadow. It can be frustrating but I find it quite cute actually.
#1 Impatience. I think this is just children in general but both are very impatient. Especially when it comes to meal times.
#2 Food. I’m lucky, I know. Both have been unfussy when it comes to food. They eat most foods and generally have decent appetites. I think he will have a bigger appetite as he grows older though. Boys apparently eat more so I’ve been led to believe.
#3 Strangers. Our daughter was very wary of strangers as a baby/toddler. Now she will talk to anyone! Our son is also wary of strangers. Often wanting to come back to me.
I’m not entirely sure if it’s a difference between the sexes. Is it just that they are two different people? Who knows. I’m just kind of glad we had a girl first!